Alhamdulillah (Praised be upon Allah swt) after a long time, today i managed to steal a bit of my time to scribble something on my blog.
I just dont know where to begin... First of all i would like to say that currently im on semester 4, year 2 of medicine in Universiti Sains Malaysia. So, mana2 adik2 yg baru lepas ambil result SPM yg berminat nak ambik medic, dont hesitate to ask me regarding this course. InsyaAllah i will try my best to help. Congratulation to those getting excellence results! May Allah grant u with blessed succes. To those that not made it, dont be sad. Everything happens for a reason. Reflect back and learn from mistake. Don't grieve too long. This is just a beginning. There will be much more to be face out there.
Basically what i wanna touch on for today's topic is regarding jealousy. From the previous post i already touch a bit on this but that post is actually made for someone that i care truly. So, bila tajuk jealousy, smua org akan fikir pasal jealous on bercinta dgn pasangan right? buat actually, what i wanna talk here is that, jealousy toward friends. I mean... Best friends. yep. Do u ever feel jealous toward ur besties? I bet everyone does. In the aspect of study? friendship or love? wealth? health? personality? popularity?
How does the feeling develop? is it good or bad?
Now, dear readers...
I had bestfriends too. Just like everyone else. Yes, sometimes that feeling does developed in me. It depends on how we control it. Either we treat it in a good way or in a bad way. If we sees it in a bad way, then, it will turn out to be bad and vice versa.
For examples, I had a bestfriend. :) So, when u had declared somebody as ur bestfriend, u thought that, this besties MUST always be besides u. This is not some kind of bad feeling like lesbian or something. But usually girls are tend to magnified their feelings. for guys, im not sure how it goes.
So, when ur bestfriend had become close to another friend, u tend to get jealous right? Or when ur bestfriend ditch u for his boyfriend, u get mad right?
and how about jealousy towards achievement? popularity?
when we are close with somebody, we tend to compare ourselves to them while we ourselves have our own specialty that sometimes we didn't really appreciate that we had it.
Dear readers,
Being jealous to our own besties is somehow not a bad feeling. also, im not saying it is a good feeling too. But, it depends on the way of us get control of it. Firstly, in the aspect of friendship, we doesn't own 100% our besties. She/ he also belongs to others. They have their own rights to be friend others too. Being friends with others sometimes may open our mind n thought. We can't control our friend. We want the best for them right? so, jealousy is love. but excessive jealousy is personality disorder. LoL.
Being jealous that our besties spends more time with their boyfie also troubles us. Readers, dont ask ur friend to get them choose between love and friendship. It will just make things worst. What u had to do is to talk with ur friend nicely. Kadang2 sarcastic pun jgnlah smpai buat kwn terasa hati. Sometimes, we are the one that had to start first. because, people in love sometimes forgot. Ask them to spend time with u. This will make things better.
In the aspect of achievement i will say that, I do sometimes get jealous with some of my besties. Their popularity, their life, their achievement, but somehow, every human that born in this world owns their unique and special life gifted by god. So, be grateful of what u have as not everyone had what u own now. :) Jealousy is also an encouragement. It pushes us to work harder so that we will achieve better like others :)
So, readers that i dear most,
jealous is sometimes can be healthy, but make sure to be in controlled of it. :)
Assalam.
fina
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