Overcoming sadness

In the name of Allah, The Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Hi readers, (if i do have one)
As I promised in my previous post
I wanted to share how i moved on with my life
after undergoing tribulation / hardship in life
be it, heartbreak, disappointment, failure and etc

Im sure everyone have their own coping method
and stay with what you think suits you okay?
Im not an expert but Im gonna share mine..

1) Talk to someone
It is important to have someone to talk to. Approach your friend that you can trust and rely on. It is hard to share problem with others but this is one good thing to do because whenever we feel sad, we are unable to think straight. Thus, by sharing it with someone, they might give you some powerful advices that will help you to find solutions to your problem. It is also important to choose the right person to tell to because some people are not a good listener. So, choose wisely and trust me you will feel much better. Please don't shut yourself in your room, it will make things difficult for you. So, seek help and don't hesitate to talk.

Meanwhile, when you are the one who being approach by a friend in need, what you need to do is just lend your ears. Sometimes, people just want you to listen to them, eventhough you have no words to say to them. Be a good listener kay?

2) Surround yourself with positive people, family and friends
As I mentioned before, don't shut yourself out from people. You may need some time for yourself, but not too long. You need to go out with family and friends to lift up your spirit back. Socialize with other people that makes you feel good about yourself. Positive vibe is infectious. Just don't let one person ruin your life. Don't let people who do so little for you control so much of your mind, feelings and emotion. Not worth it!

3) Cry
It is okay to let your emotion pour out on the beginning. You are not robot and crying is one of the best method to let everythings out. Even our beloved prophet cried during khadijah's passing. So, it is okay to cry but always remind yourself, dont grieve too long, it is not good for your eye :) . wipe your tears and be ready to stand back up.

4) Travel, explore outside world, meet new people
This is definitely a very good method for me. Travel heals everything. Go travel, explore other places, be lost, be exhausted, have a good food, meet new people. Travel makes you forget everything and enjoy your journey along the way. If it doesn't work for you, travel more, travel longer. Sometimes, you need to be somewhere far to find back who you are and what your purpose of life. You will get back on track, be sure of that okay?

5) Prostration
The One who will heal everything is God. God is the one who will mend your broken heart. We planned but He is indeed still the best planner of all. Putting hope on other than God will eventually hurt you. Thus, always seek for Him whenever you faced tribulations/hardship because Only Him will give your the strength and solutions to overcome it. Put your trust in Allah and always talk to him. I believe everyone want to be a strong person. So, do you think you'll get stronger without having a hardship? Think about it, hardship is meant to boost up your endurance level so that you'll be able to face greater challenge ahead of you :) Cry to him, get back to him, as He is the most Loving and Most forgiving to His servant.

6) Make yourself busy
Last but not least, try to make full of yourself by doing some beneficial activities. For me, I like to do some physical activities such as going to the gym for weightlifting, hiking, running and rope jump. Exercise makes your body release happy hormone called endorphine which is also a natural painkiller. The hormone will boost your mood and you'll feel better. You can do other various activities to make you forget the pain such as by doing volunteerism or watching some of your favourite movies and dramas. Just make yourself busy, then it'll be fine.

7) Let time heal everything
Last but not least, forgetting something painful will not take only a day. It may took months or even years. It is hard to forget something that once meaningful to you. The memories will played repeatedly on your mind. But as the time flies, memories will fade and one day you'll realise that you feel more calm than before. So, don't force yourself to forget but try to make peace with your past and learnt from it. Believe that everything happens for a reason and glad tidings is waiting for someone who's always patience. Allah love the sabireen. :)

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So, that's all i wanna share with you. You may have more better ways of overcoming sadness. If you do, pls share with me! I hope this post can help anyone out there who are currently in a process of healing their heart. I pray that Allah swt provide for you solutions from whatever hardship that you are facing now. Stay strong. :)

Lastly, i leave you readers with one ayat from Quran to be pondered upon.

" Allah doesn't burden a soul without it can bear"

-DrFina-

You deserve someone better

In the name of Allah the most Gracious most Merciful

I believe everyone had experience falling in love right?
at least once in their lifetime
Some may have experience heart break
and some may not but may have feel disappointment in life
Disappointment means seeing someone they had a crush on
married to someone else.. kan?

Some people are so loyal that they only let their heart
love only one person in their life
eventhough that person didn't love them back
They didn't want to give themselves a chance to be happy with somebody else
and this kind of person would do anything for them
even by waiting for that person for the rest of their life

people may get impressed with this kind of love
but for me,
it is bad for someone having a faithful heart like that
torturing themselves for someone who didn't even care
and who didn't give a shit for what he/she had been through for them
This kind of person deserves happiness for themselves
and should give themselves a chance to be loved by someone else

So, anyone out there having through hard times
always believe that someone else will appear in your life
someone far more better for you
Always believe that..
 "Allah may take a drop of water from you,
and He save for you the sea".
So, let go of people that leave your life
they are not for you and don't ever think that you will not be happy with anyone else
because you never know what Allah have prepare for you
or what brings you tomorrow.

The time will come,
hardship usually will past and ease will come
always think without hardship you will not value ease
letting go of someone you love is really hard
they said, falling in love is easy, it may happened in a blink of an eye
but forgetting someone you love and the memories took lifetime
I agreed.

But dear readers,
you always heard of "life only once"
So, make the best out of it
there's so much thing to do and to explore in this world
travel, achieve your goal and move on.

I've been through so many heartbreak and disappointment throughout my life
and i've been through loving someone so long that in the end
they married to someone else and currently happy (Im glad they are)
and I have been cheated on, been tricked, been disrespected,
It is hard indeed, I admit I was questioning God for everything that happened before
I blame myself without knowing that it wasn't because of me
but because they are not meant for me, but I was stubborn initially.

However,
Allah is the most forgiving and loving
He always put me back on track
He showed me the way and there's more to be seen than
sitting in your room crying over something that's not worth to be grieve on.
I learned to value myself without needing someone else acceptance
I learned to love people around me more
I grow wiser and I rely more on Allah swt

Hardship makes me near to Him
and time really play a role in changing and moulding me becoming a better person
I am grateful for my past
and I am grateful that Allah sent all these people
making me realised that people will always come and go
and relying on people will end up with disappointment

How did I survived all those heartbreak moment in my life?

Get back on your feet, because nobody will do it for you
and talk to Allah swt, even if you are not in your salah
talk to Him, He will always listen
and be around people you love, family and friends
you are not alone, your world will not fall apart eventhough
someone you love leaves you,
there are more to come, more ahead of you,
be bold, let go and move your ass on.

Ill share what did I do to make myself strong
and how i moved on in my next post insyaAllah.

I used to hate running..

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

I used to hate running during my teenage years
even during my university years, i didn't really like sports activity
However, I played futsal in my first and second year of medical school
that's the only sport that i played that requires me running *laugh
and i never know how i have that interest in the first place *amaze
.....................................

I was an obese girl back then
Since i was a kid, I never had normal BMI
My weight fluctuated from being overweight and obese but never in normal range
That is why running is never my cup of tea

I never enjoyed sports during my school days
because i was afraid being teased
and being laughed at
I had low self-esteem and that makes me hate being in front of people
However, i am grateful that i excelled in academics
Somehow, academic makes me confident about myself
and some people didn't dare to tease me about it

So, throughout the years
i always focus on my academic rather than Cocuriculum
which is not really good because an excellent student should
excell in all areas kan?
But it didnt bother me at all. hahahaha. I didn't care. lol

Fast forward, I was 16 years old
and during that time, i realised its time to lose weight
so, I decided to start on diet (unhealthy diet) and hiking with cuzzie
Alhamdulillah i lost 10 kg's but couldn't recall the timing period
I became thinner but still overweight and still didn't enjoy sports in school. hahaha

Since then, I maintained my weight until i entered university
but i gained few kg's in USM, mybe due to stress and etc
after graduated from med school
staying at home without doing anything very much easier to put on weight
I was in denial phase for a few months
thinking my weight was okay and i still look good
but the reality was, I am overweight almost obese and i look ugly!
sometimes i didn't want to go out because i was embarassed that people might
talk behind me *padahal xda pun overrr*

So, how did i began to enjoy running then?
long story short, my father was so into cycling this year
but somehow, he has a health condition that requires him to stop cycling for a moment
so, he took a break for awhile and starts walking and jogging
He dragged me along every morning to sports complex to accompany him
I did not refused to my father's offer because I very much want to support him on this
So, I followed him every morning

Initially, I was into gym and rope skipping
since I didn't like cardio activity
so, i rather choose hiking and crossfit *weight lifting*
I did it for about 2 months but didn't see any good results on my body
mybe because of my diet intake and lack of motivation
skip that part..
then, I decided to follow my father and tried running
I was soooo lazy initially, and started walking and on and off running
I ran 1km and then the next day walking, then running, then walking and the cycle continues
but then, one day I decided to challenge myself
to increase the distance and improve timing
day by day passed... my breathing improved, I ran even faster and even further!!

and now, im able to finished 4km within 30 mins and each lap less than 8 mins!
how cool is that for someone that hates running?!
Im not bragging about this but I was saying that
sometimes, you might hate something because you are not good at it
but if you never tried, you never know how far you could go. seriously!
So, if you ever feel that you are not talented in certain areas,
you should tried it first and try to work on it.
It took sometime for me to be able to come to this far,
and success didn't come in a day, consistent, patience and dicipline is the key to it

So, never give up on something that you believe you had no talent on it
just go for it, give it a try,
everyone have their own potential
but if you think you still can't do it
then you can always find other things to do that you're good at
as long as you had work on it, there's no regret.

Currently, im in a process of losing weight
and keep on challenge myself to achieve 5km run,
may Allah ease everything and makes me persistent eveyday,
I hope this post inspire you and let's work on improving ourselves!

till then.