In the name of Allah, The Most Gracious, Most Merciful
Hi readers, (if i do have one)
As I promised in my previous post
I wanted to share how i moved on with my life
after undergoing tribulation / hardship in life
be it, heartbreak, disappointment, failure and etc
Im sure everyone have their own coping method
and stay with what you think suits you okay?
Im not an expert but Im gonna share mine..
1) Talk to someone
It is important to have someone to talk to. Approach your friend that you can trust and rely on. It is hard to share problem with others but this is one good thing to do because whenever we feel sad, we are unable to think straight. Thus, by sharing it with someone, they might give you some powerful advices that will help you to find solutions to your problem. It is also important to choose the right person to tell to because some people are not a good listener. So, choose wisely and trust me you will feel much better. Please don't shut yourself in your room, it will make things difficult for you. So, seek help and don't hesitate to talk.
Meanwhile, when you are the one who being approach by a friend in need, what you need to do is just lend your ears. Sometimes, people just want you to listen to them, eventhough you have no words to say to them. Be a good listener kay?
2) Surround yourself with positive people, family and friends
As I mentioned before, don't shut yourself out from people. You may need some time for yourself, but not too long. You need to go out with family and friends to lift up your spirit back. Socialize with other people that makes you feel good about yourself. Positive vibe is infectious. Just don't let one person ruin your life. Don't let people who do so little for you control so much of your mind, feelings and emotion. Not worth it!
3) Cry
It is okay to let your emotion pour out on the beginning. You are not robot and crying is one of the best method to let everythings out. Even our beloved prophet cried during khadijah's passing. So, it is okay to cry but always remind yourself, dont grieve too long, it is not good for your eye :) . wipe your tears and be ready to stand back up.
4) Travel, explore outside world, meet new people
This is definitely a very good method for me. Travel heals everything. Go travel, explore other places, be lost, be exhausted, have a good food, meet new people. Travel makes you forget everything and enjoy your journey along the way. If it doesn't work for you, travel more, travel longer. Sometimes, you need to be somewhere far to find back who you are and what your purpose of life. You will get back on track, be sure of that okay?
5) Prostration
The One who will heal everything is God. God is the one who will mend your broken heart. We planned but He is indeed still the best planner of all. Putting hope on other than God will eventually hurt you. Thus, always seek for Him whenever you faced tribulations/hardship because Only Him will give your the strength and solutions to overcome it. Put your trust in Allah and always talk to him. I believe everyone want to be a strong person. So, do you think you'll get stronger without having a hardship? Think about it, hardship is meant to boost up your endurance level so that you'll be able to face greater challenge ahead of you :) Cry to him, get back to him, as He is the most Loving and Most forgiving to His servant.
6) Make yourself busy
Last but not least, try to make full of yourself by doing some beneficial activities. For me, I like to do some physical activities such as going to the gym for weightlifting, hiking, running and rope jump. Exercise makes your body release happy hormone called endorphine which is also a natural painkiller. The hormone will boost your mood and you'll feel better. You can do other various activities to make you forget the pain such as by doing volunteerism or watching some of your favourite movies and dramas. Just make yourself busy, then it'll be fine.
7) Let time heal everything
Last but not least, forgetting something painful will not take only a day. It may took months or even years. It is hard to forget something that once meaningful to you. The memories will played repeatedly on your mind. But as the time flies, memories will fade and one day you'll realise that you feel more calm than before. So, don't force yourself to forget but try to make peace with your past and learnt from it. Believe that everything happens for a reason and glad tidings is waiting for someone who's always patience. Allah love the sabireen. :)
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So, that's all i wanna share with you. You may have more better ways of overcoming sadness. If you do, pls share with me! I hope this post can help anyone out there who are currently in a process of healing their heart. I pray that Allah swt provide for you solutions from whatever hardship that you are facing now. Stay strong. :)
Lastly, i leave you readers with one ayat from Quran to be pondered upon.
" Allah doesn't burden a soul without it can bear"
-DrFina-
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